tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post2005096989805708924..comments2023-10-28T05:24:43.691-07:00Comments on BITTER CHOCOLATE: Kitna padhogi?Rachnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12237516640673368951noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-24286556271847219172011-03-17T03:23:20.032-07:002011-03-17T03:23:20.032-07:00Really I don't think anyone is actually commen...Really I don't think anyone is actually commenting about you as for being a girl and studying- I(am a girl/woman) and my friends keep commenting on a doc friend of mine(guy) who is doing his PG and is planning PhD.<br />I have heard some such comments for my masters including the hard to get a gud guy one and dint pay attention. i really don't think they mean anything and wont even care to bother about such a passing remark- it works as a conversation striker and I leave it at that-picking conversation on something else.rthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14405888546982763369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-37809228757333738402011-02-04T13:56:23.345-08:002011-02-04T13:56:23.345-08:00I hear ya! This is what I used to get, but even mo...I hear ya! This is what I used to get, but even more obnoxious. Something like "if you keep studying, your parents will have to find a "boy" that's more qualified than you!". I used to be mad at those questions, but now, after all these years, they leave me well alone. If I had the foresight then, I might have answered "zindagi bhar!" because life is about learning!Agnijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09252180663413868400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-28944313601372565982011-01-21T09:46:52.145-08:002011-01-21T09:46:52.145-08:00the best answer i feel to 'kitna padhogi?'...the best answer i feel to 'kitna padhogi?' will be 'till the time I enjoy doing so!'.. i feel its neither rude, and should "ideally" shut them off :)<br />continue doing what you enjoy!!Nehahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11514770859221592913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-41685775496750920332011-01-20T12:20:41.142-08:002011-01-20T12:20:41.142-08:00@PB- I don't like being rude to my relatives m...@PB- I don't like being rude to my relatives mostly- they are all close to me but yet so nosy. Also since i meet them so rarely, would not like to be rude! Wish there was an easier way.<br /><br />@Richa- I think its ok to be non-confrontational, things only get worse if you do! Esp with family!! You never know ki phir log kitni baat badhayenege chadayenge... But yes, there are times when I want to be really really REALLY rude :)<br /><br />@Bindi- you go girl! All the best for the MBA. And bahut overeducated ladke hain is duniya mein ;) Actually the best policy is to smile and walk away and say nothing.Rachnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12237516640673368951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-77561903351038358432011-01-19T14:09:30.999-08:002011-01-19T14:09:30.999-08:00You read my mind Rachna. I am trying to pursue an ...You read my mind Rachna. I am trying to pursue an MBA and have started my application process and this is all I hear. The funny part is my parents are encouraging me to study. It is my friends and other extended family that is asking me the same question and telling me that I will never find a boy because I will be over educated. Don't understand how someone can be over educated, if I had my way I would study for life. Just to be confrontational I used to tell them I don't want to get married but that opens another bucket of worms so these days I just smile and walk away. :). Wish there was a way to tell these people to mind their own business.binshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15041509660421400505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-36686598942069946092011-01-19T04:38:36.413-08:002011-01-19T04:38:36.413-08:00I feel your pain. Been there, done that. Actually ...I feel your pain. Been there, done that. Actually make it, I am there and doing that. Not just with studies but other stuff as well like, as PB said, marriage, coming back to India, joining academics etc. Its like society has already decided my path and since I am not following it, it automatically gives every XYZ to point me in that direction. All I want to do at those time is scream "Its none of your business!" I never told them what career path they should choose, who, why or when they should be married, then who gave them right to interfere in my life..<br /><br />I especially hate the comment "Kitna padhogi?" I mean I understand when a granny ask me that since life has changed so much since her time but someone from my generation ask me that: that gets me over the edge. If its online, I don't answer at all. If its face-to-face , I simply shrug (at times I hate myself for being non-confrontational). <br /><br />Stupid people.Richahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00567916687338546057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18623485.post-50659513843309131742011-01-19T01:28:34.100-08:002011-01-19T01:28:34.100-08:00To be honest, I wouldn't care if I was being r...To be honest, I wouldn't care if I was being rude when I replied to these people. It's none of their business how much you study! I guess I tend to give people flippant answers to such questions...it's not being downright rude but there's a warning in the tone that says don't mess with me. It's like when I went to India a couple of yrs ago (age 25) and since I had finished my studies the year before, the automatic assumption was the prescribed path and I got asked that by several family friends and all I said was "Marriage....now??? Are you kidding me! No way! Why would I want to do that now when I've only been working a year" Or something along those lines. :PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com